💝Why Everyone’s Suddenly Obsessed With 'That Girl' Again (And Why I Low-key Get It Now)

"Spoiler Alert: I Am That Girl—But in My Own Chaotic Way"

✨ The Return of That Girl – But She’s Rebranded

Let’s set the scene: It’s 6:03 AM. Sunlight is softly glowing through gauzy curtains. “August” by Taylor Swift plays in the background. Somewhere, That Girl is already sipping matcha, writing affirmations in a linen-bound journal, and looking emotionally stable.

And I? I just woke up 34 minutes late, with mascara on my pillow and zero plans to drink anything green.

But here’s the thing—I still feel her energy. I still want to be her. And apparently, I’m not alone.

Because That Girl is trending again. But this time? She’s a little softer. A little messier. A little more… us.

She's happy even if didn't woke up on time

👑 Who is That Girl? And Why Is She Back?

Let’s take a lil throwback trip.

In 2021-2022, the That Girl trend exploded on TikTok and Pinterest. She had 5-step skincare routines, almond mom energy, perfectly color-coded journals, and a room that looked like an Architectural Digest shoot.

People loved her. People hated her. She was aesthetic. She was aspirational. She was also, honestly? Exhausting.

But now, in 2025?

She’s still here—but she’s had a glow-down in the best way possible.

• She’s healing.

• She’s rejecting hustle culture.

• She’s sleeping in on Sundays.

• She’s still romanticizing her life—but she no longer feels like a robot in yoga pants.

  
  

She’s real. And she’s vibing.

✨ Why We’re All Still Obsessed (Even If We Roll Our Eyes)

Look, it’s easy to clown the That Girl vibe—especially when it's all pastel smoothies and impossible morning routines. But if you zoom out for a second? It makes sense why we're all lowkey addicted to the fantasy.

Here’s the secret: It’s not about being her. It’s about being you, but slightly better. Not changed. Just cared for.

That Girl is just the aesthetic version of wanting stability. Peace. Consistency. A little main character moment in the chaos of life.

And you know what? That’s kind of beautiful.

She's consistent--

🥱 But Let's Be Real — She's Also Kinda Annoying

Okay but ALSO… let’s talk about the dark side.

Sometimes, That Girl content feels like:

• “If you’re not waking up at 5 AM, journaling, meditating, and doing a 10-step morning routine, you’re doing life wrong.”

• “Drink this $17 smoothie, use this $60 cleanser, and you too can become mentally stable.”

• “Mental health? Just light a candle, babe!”

  
  

Yeah. No. Healing isn’t aesthetic. Growth is rarely Instagrammable. Sometimes it’s crying in your bathroom at 2 PM because your brain feels weird for no reason.

That doesn’t mean you’re not thriving. It just means you’re human.

She's taking care of herself both physically and mentally.

💅 I Tried Being That Girl – And It Was Kind of a Mess

Here’s where it gets spicy: I actually tried the whole That Girl routine for a week.

Like, full commitment. Woke up at 6 AM. Drank the lemon water. Moved my body. Played lo-fi beats. Said affirmations like “I am radiantly powerful,” even though I felt like a tired rat.

And you know what?

It… helped. A little. Not because it made me suddenly enlightened, but because it gave me a reason to get out of bed. It gave structure to the mess.

But also, by day 4, I was exhausted. Because routines are only healing when they’re yours. Not copy-pasted from a Pinterest board.

A girl enjoying herself

🌸 Healing Girl Era > Hustle Girl Era

We’re done glamorizing burnout. We’re done glorifying doing too much. We’re done performing productivity for the internet.

That Girl in 2025? She’s in her healing era.

• She rests without guilt.

• She skips a workout and doesn’t spiral.

• She chooses peace over perfection.

  
  

She still journals. She still lights candles. But she also rage-cries, doom-scrolls, and eats fries in bed.

And guess what? That still counts.

Hold on!

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🧠 So What Actually Makes You That Girl?

Let me make this painfully clear: it’s not the matcha.

Here’s what makes you That Girl now:

1. You choose yourself.

   Even when it’s hard. Even when you don’t feel like it.

   
   

2. You romanticize the boring stuff.

   Grocery shopping becomes a movie montage. Washing your face feels like a ritual.

   
   

3. You let yourself feel.

   You’re not bottling it up. You’re processing, baby.

   
   

4. You protect your energy.

   No more letting people who drain you stay in your life just because they’ve been there a while.

   
   

5. You rest.

   Guilt-free. Because you know your body isn’t a machine.

   
   

That Girl is not a morning routine. She’s a mindset.

☕ What She’s Not (Because Let’s Not Get It Twisted)

She’s not your reason to shame yourself.

She’s not your excuse to buy 34 products you’ll never use.

She’s not a capitalist scam designed to sell you “wellness.”

She’s not here to tell you that your current life isn’t good enough.

And she’s definitely not better than you.

Because YOU, in your fuzzy socks and messy bun and sleepy eyes and 8 PM overthinking spiral—you’re still that girl. You always were.

Now You Know the real YOU

🖤 Being That Girl… But Make It Yours

So here's the deal. If you want to be That Girl — go for it.

Buy the journal. Wake up earlier. Light the candle. Romanticize your life like it’s an indie film.

But make it yours.

Let your version of That Girl wear pajamas till noon.

Let her cry to Olivia Rodrigo in the shower.

Let her start again tomorrow — for the 137th time.

Because life isn’t a Pinterest board. It’s a weird, beautiful, awkward, chaotic experience. And the best version of you isn’t the most productive one — it’s the one that’s kind to herself.

📣 Final Thoughts (a.k.a. Main Character Monologue)

If I had a mic right now, I’d say:

You don’t need to earn your place in your own story.

You don’t need to have a perfect morning to have a good day.

You don’t need to constantly “glow up” to be worthy of love, success, or iced coffee.

You’re already her.

Even when you’re a mess.

Even when you’re lost.

Even when you don’t believe it.

So let’s retire the pressure and keep the vibe.

Let’s romanticize healing.

Let’s glorify rest.

Let’s aestheticize self-compassion.

Let’s be That Girl — but let’s be her realistically.

Because healing isn't linear, and thriving doesn’t always look cute.

But if you're here, showing up, growing slowly?

You already won.

She does what she enjoys

But, ok so now… let’s get out of that girl space of balcony with a cup of coffee and journal. Let’s twist it in our own way. Let’s talk about that girl being out with her friends, playing a sport, having fun, or maybe eating a burger.

Being that girl is not a fixed routine that you have to follow. It’s about molding the routine in your own way, according to your likings and dividing it your way. So, you’ve got it.

Tag your inner chaos queen. Drink your water. Take your nap. Light the candle. Then forget you lit it and panic five hours later. You're doing amazing, sweetie.

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